The impact of self loathing on your goals
So your self loathing can create a rather viscous cycle when trying to lose weight. Did you know that by hating your body, you are putting a wedge between you and your goals?
Generally, people are unhappy with how they look and or feel and are very much hoping to look or feel different by losing some weight. No shit right? However have you ever considered that maybe you can't hate your self thin.
Tell me ladies, when was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror and high fived the soul staring back at you. I mean really admired what you saw. Did you send more time thinking about how much better your boobs looked before your babies sucked them away or how bad ass you look in your skinny leg jeans? Do you grab your tummy and report how disgusting you look or do you appreciate your killer curves? Why on earth would you invest time and energy into something you despised. Why would you reward your body with amazing nourishing food and honor your body with exercise if you didn't think it was worth the investment?
Well I've got some news for you. You are worthy of the investment. You are destined for greatness. You can create your dream body.
You might have had some initial weight loss from diets in the past. Only to finally cave on the strict regime, report back to yourself that you knew you would never succeed and you f#$&^d it up again. If you are anything like me you then went on a binge fest until you felt your body got the punishment that it deserved. I would often punish myself with a whole packet of Tim Tams because I "blew it", going over my daily calorie allowance by 100 calories. I'd then punish myself with exercise the next day to work off said Tim Tams. Finally something inside you tightens the reins and you start again on your diet and weight loss journey. See how the self loathing cycle keeps you overweight?
When you truly love and accept your body you will begin to free the shackles of self loathing. You will start to choose healthy things to eat and do and play because you believe you are worth it. And lets just be clear, sometimes it's OK to choose to have the ice cream or hot chips or a vino. And boy is it powerful to choose them and not have them rule you!
I want you to start really listing to the way you self talk. Write it down if you want. If you would't feel comfortable saying that to your bestie or your sister or your daughter, why on earth are you saying it to yourself? I am asking you to write down (at least) 3 things that you love about your body and focus on those every time you look in the mirror. It can be anything.....I love how soft my skin feels on my inner arm, I love the shape of my hands, I love the color of my hair, I love my bubble butt. You name it, just pick some things you admire in yourself. This is about taking baby steps. This is about shifting your focus and fake it till you make it with self love and self respect. Without getting all soppy on ya, I know you are made of stardust. I know you are a Wonder Woman already and I want you to believe you are aswell. xx