Feel the fear and do it anyway....
Fear has a funny way of stopping us from getting where we want to be. I suppose it's not really funny at all in fact it's just our incredible body trying to keep us from getting hurt. The flight or fight response is a physiological mechanism in response to a perceived danger.
So what has this got to do with health? I think often one of the biggest obstacles to reaching our health and wellness goals be it weight loss or a fitness goal or a career or relationship goal is the fear of failure. We start processing all the things can might go wrong, realistic or not, and they become the primary focus.
Let me share an example with you. So I had a fitness goal last year. It was to participate in a Spartan race, a military inspired obstacle course, without electrocution (the Paramedic in me just wouldn't allow it). I love training for an event. It gives me focus with my training, lets me lay with my tribe and the feeling of accomplishment afterwards is soooo amazing. I faffed around, not registering, finding reasons not to compete for ages, like months. Finally in a moment of strength, I registered. These events are not cheap so I knew there was no turning back one I was signed up. My Christmas present from my amazing hubby was 10 weeks of personal training to get me prepared for the big day.
So I found Mark a PT at my Gym and we began the grueling (really I loved it, every sweaty second) of preparation for the day. The limit pushing training and encouragement got my head into gear.
And then it was race day.
Soooo very nervous but excited. The unknown is the most frightening thing. What obstacles will there be? What if I can't do them. Oh my god how embarrassing will that be. Will the other competitors be nice or will they shoulder barge me out of the way if I'm too slow. What if I break a bone. Oh my GOD!!!!!!
As soon as we collectively yell "I AM SPARTAN" and run through the start line a semi trailer of weight is lifted off my shoulders and I started smiling, like one of those cheeks hurt smiles where your gums show.
I can honestly say it was one of the most fun days I have had as an adult. I got to swing from ropes, crawl through mud, jump over thing, crawl under things, pretend I was a an army cadet! It was awesome. I am totally hooked now and cannot wait for the next one. I found out a few weeks after the race that I had actually come first (out of 583) females in the Rookie division and out of all the Rookies, 1016 men and women I came 2nd. So incredibly proud and a very pleasantly surprised. My results were certainly a reminder that we are capable of so much more than we think we are.
So I encourage you to challenge your fears. Welcome the fear in with a big old bear hug and ask it to hang around for a chat. Find out what it wants and what it's trying to protect you from. Chances are, your fears are way worse than reality. After you've had some time with Fear, thank it and ask it to see itself out. Feel the fear and do it anyway. You never know what you could achieve.